Why is AA So Ineffective?

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A Quora answer by Mark Urso, Author of “A Candle Lit”:

The problem with AA is something that happens very early, when a person, a “sufferer,” is first introduced to the idea, sees a pamphlet or checks out his first meeting … the system can easily lose its credibility and feel either like it’s extreme, or members are jumping to conclusions …

People are simply scared away before they join.

In my book, “A Candle Lit,” I call them “leavers-before-they-enter.”

The three biggest problems are …

Ambiguous Permanence: It’s never been proven alcoholism is permanent, but members commonly insist it is. This is a credibility hit if the new person thinks about it … To make matters confusing, the words “alcoholic” Continue reading “Why is AA So Ineffective?”

Simple Stretching For Everyone

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My stretching routine is based on balance. I’m an expert skier, spent a lot of time around yoga, and trained in karate for 6 years.

I developed my simple ritual Continue reading “Simple Stretching For Everyone”

College Kids Need A Hobby (Or, Boy, Does America Like Its Guns!)

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(Fairfax, VA) The US Census Bureau announced impressionable young people are available in greater numbers than usual. Many failed to show up for a recent march on the headquarters of the National Rifle Association (NRA) in Fairfax Saturday afternoon.

These young people, who probably learned in school that they should get involved in important causes, apparently didn’t get their invitations, or weren’t certain what they were supposed to do at the NRA rally. Regardless, there’s more of them available, looking for a cause, so if you have old people that need meals delivered to them, work done around their houses or yard work, those are just some ideas. These kids are able-bodied and ready to go. They need a cause!

Some of them will do whatever you tell them to. In case you need a window broken, for example, some of them are good at that!

When I was younger, it was easier to find a cause. The shooters would set up in a tower right in the middle of a college campus. Continue reading “College Kids Need A Hobby (Or, Boy, Does America Like Its Guns!)”

Good New Article

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I’ve learned something about troubled young people. I spend more time these days on Quora, where I have an established audience for my mental health preachings. Before I speak in layman’s-statistics-style, I’ll be general.

Quora is a place anyone can ask a question, and anyone, showing their credentials, can answer. I spend time in the mental health section trying to help people. I’m 56, well experienced and self published, and I find it gratifying thinking I might help someone.

Quora, though, isn’t a cross section of young people, even though there are a lot of Continue reading “Good New Article”

Facebook’s Slow Death, and “YouEntertainment!”

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My friend got a call the other day. The guy said “Hi, I’m from Facebook, the advertising department.”
My friend was watching TV, but was intrigued, he said, so he muted the TV.

“Listen,” the Facebook guy said, “there’s a guy in Fredericton Maryland, named Jimmy Johnson … Jimmy needs you to look at his thing.”

“What?” my friend said … Continue reading “Facebook’s Slow Death, and “YouEntertainment!””

Cigarettes, Bipolar and Hunger Theory

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Cigarettes are clearly a hunger-related addiction, just like chocolate, coffee, sugar and salt. While this may sound, in the true style of addiction, like not a very big deal, messing with your “hunger system” is a big reason cigarettes earn the top of addiction’s totem pole.

The mind-bend doesn’t stop there, by far. The 4000 additives in cigarettes include Carbon Monoxide, Ammonia, Arsenic and Formaldehyde, and studies have shown smoking doubles your risk of depression. Continue reading “Cigarettes, Bipolar and Hunger Theory”

Children Separated From Their Parents

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I don’t want to write an article about children being separated from their parents. I’ll just get in the middle of a nasty controversy.

And things not always being what they appear, this actually is an article about national pride!

I’ve got it all planned out, First, I want to set things up with this recent phone conversation I had with a friend in Florida:

My Friend: I used to teach preschool, but now I can’t because I don’t speak Spanish!

Me: How long did you teach preschool for?

My Friend: A lot! Continue reading “Children Separated From Their Parents”

SNL’s Ohlman Dedicates Show to Matt “Guitar” Murphy, “The Gone of You,” Christine Ohlman & Rebel Montez

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(Westerly, RI) Christine Ohlman, longtime lead vocalist for the Saturday Night Live Band, dedicated last evening’s show at the Knickerbocker Cafe to Matt “Guitar” Murphy, a fellow SNL alum who played with Belushi’s “Blues Brothers,” who died this week of cancer.

Video from the show follows … Continue reading “SNL’s Ohlman Dedicates Show to Matt “Guitar” Murphy, “The Gone of You,” Christine Ohlman & Rebel Montez”